{"id":825,"date":"2012-07-23T20:23:49","date_gmt":"2012-07-24T04:23:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lairdharrison.com\/fallenlake\/?p=825"},"modified":"2012-08-01T16:01:18","modified_gmt":"2012-08-02T00:01:18","slug":"matts-mistake","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lairdharrison.com\/fallenlake\/825\/matts-mistake\/","title":{"rendered":"Matt’s mistake"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dear Reader,<\/p>\n

I welcome my stepbrother, Matt, to this public discussion of our private business. I owe him thanks for the clarification of our conversation<\/a> from the other day. I think I follow his argument, but I’m not completely persuaded. As he writes, behavior results from an interaction of genes and the environment. Our parents were a fundamental part of that environment when we were growing up. My point is not to blame them. They acted out of a kind of idealism when they got into their group marriage. But I don’t want other parents to take the same decision lightly. There’s a reason why our civilization stopped practice polygamy a thousand years ago.<\/p>\n

I’d like to point out as well that none<\/em> of the four children from that group marriage have not gone on to raise their own biological children with a partner. I don’t think that can be coincidence.<\/p>\n

As a doctor, I’m trained to see bodies as machines. But as a parent of adopted kids, I know there’s something more than\u00a0deoxyribonucleic acid involved in the cock-eyed way my daughter Chloe is looking at me as I type this. She knows this half-smile, her head tilted to one side, will draw me away from my keyboard, knows from all the experience of her thirty-five months of life that I can’t continue to ignore her when she plants little kisses on my shin… I’m signing off…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Behavior results from an interaction of genes and the environment. Our parents were a fundamental part of that environment when we were growing up. My point is not to blame them. I they acted out of a kind of idealism when they got into their group marriage. But I don’t want other parents to take the same decision lightly.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[76,74,73,45,53,46,75],"class_list":["post-825","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-adrienne","tag-children-in-polyamory","tag-environment","tag-genes","tag-monogamy","tag-poly","tag-polygamy","tag-raising-poly-children"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lairdharrison.com\/fallenlake\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/825","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lairdharrison.com\/fallenlake\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lairdharrison.com\/fallenlake\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lairdharrison.com\/fallenlake\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lairdharrison.com\/fallenlake\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=825"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/lairdharrison.com\/fallenlake\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/825\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":828,"href":"https:\/\/lairdharrison.com\/fallenlake\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/825\/revisions\/828"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lairdharrison.com\/fallenlake\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=825"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lairdharrison.com\/fallenlake\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=825"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lairdharrison.com\/fallenlake\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=825"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}